1. Be a good listener.
The men whom women invariably settle down with all have one thing in common: they make her feel special. If you're failing to inspire this feeling in her, it's probably because you're more focused on your feelings than hers.
Sometimes men are so caught up in impressing their date, they come off as uninterested in the person in front of them. By the time the first date ends, they've rattled off their list of brag-worthy accomplishments, but never took the time to understand what she's about. Take a breather, and let the poor woman speak!
The easiest way to set yourself apart from the self-absorbed schmucks taking her out is to ask her questions and actually listen. She'll feel more connected to you, and you'll actually make it to date number two. It's a win-win situation.
2. Get good at sex.
We hate to say it, but if your game out of bed is strong, you might need to look toward what's happening between the sheets.
Sex is an important way to connect with a woman. You might have good chemistry with your clothes on, but if you’re missing the mark with them off, it's unlikely she'll want to sign up for a monogamous relationship with you. If she's going to have sex with one person, it better be explosive.
If you've been under the false impression that showing up for sex is enough to satisfy a woman, get your mind right. Put your selfishness in check, and really ask yourself if you focus on her pleasure enough. From her end, the answer is probably no.
3. Be confident.
It all comes back to the way you feel about yourself. If you think your swag is lacking, it is. Women don't want a man with self-esteem issues who needs to be reassured of his worth; they want a man who is fully aware of what he brings to the table and how desirable it is.
When you linger in singledom against your will, and feel your confidence start to sway, take a step back and reassess the situation. You're a cool guy, and if you're not connecting with someone, it doesn't change how awesome you are. It just means you didn't have chemistry with that particular woman. Shake it off, and move on to the next one!
4. Be ready to commit.
If you've made it to the end of the list and are convinced that none of the above apply to you, it's possible women are interested, and assume you are not. You could be a supremely smooth, very datable dude. But if you're inadvertently signaling you're not interested in commitment, no sane, smart woman will pursue you.
Without even realizing it, men drop subtle hints that indicate their interest and readiness in commitment. But, sometimes miscommunication can happen. Signals get crossed. You think you're playing it nonchalant by not putting too much effort in, and she backs off, assuming you're involved with someone else, or just not looking for the same thing she is.
Sometimes, in an attempt to date defensively, you say you're not looking for a relationship or you're not ready for commitment, when in actuality, you are. Get real with yourself about what it is your seeking, and you won't send the kind of mixed signals that scare her off.
